Since my last post on my home page so much as happened, we now have a new princess in Kensington Palace, I have a new niece, sadly I lost a family member last week and it makes you realise how important it is not just to look forward to each day aswell as the future, in the moment aswell. Last Monday and Tuesday my husband, my bubs and I celebrated my husbands birthday spending time at one of our favourite places the South Bank, London and walked from Waterloo to Tower bridge and back. We after our walk had a drink in our favourite places the Festival Hall, where my son could have a wonder around safely, and then we went for a meal at the Girrafe restaurant along the South Bank. It began to rain and got worse, our son then kicked off, but it was still a nice meal and day.
I do find it hard at times to live by the moment and not wonder what else I could be doing and look towards the future, I find reality tough when certain hurdles are in the way.
When someone passes away it is like a rush of energy which wakes you up to reality and says to you "Look stop looking at the bad, or wishing you could be somewhere else when you hit challenges and obstacles. See the good, what you have now today, this minute in front of you, not what you don't have. Forget those who suck your energy but concentrate on what makes you happy as these people at this moment in your life who do bring you excitement and make you smile and the others things that make you happy won't be around forever".
When I had an idiot shout at me yesterday from his car and called me an explicit name (see my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/carrie.challoner) I did get little upset as it happened also the day before and thought "Why me?" but actually it's only words and how many times do these people do this to random strangers? I bet if I was built like Arnie Schwarzenegger or like Kane from WWF would he have shouted at me? Perhaps but not to my face as I would either lift him up and throw him or just do a slam dunk and do what Giant Haystack did (if you remember wrestling on Grandstand on BBC 1 on Saturdays you'll know what I mean) I would have just sat on him and until the air got sucked out of him. These people who behave in a non social manner probably think they invented the behaviour of insulting people while travelling by car and it's something new.
Then in front of me were these girls, one was walking with just socks on and the other had socks with flip flops, with hair on top of their heads and wearing very colourful clothing, and I thought even though it is not the look I would go for, I thought "Good for them" I bet they get people shouting at them sometimes, but I knew that the way they were chatting and not having a care in the world who saw them would not give a toss. You could see they were happy to be enjoying the weekend sun with the hell to what others think.
My problem is I analyse and go over things constantly and I know that the blokes who shouted calling me names, it weren't really about me. It never is and I think about footballers I know they come under some scrutiny but they do take and get a lot of abuse every weekend, and I can see why they do end up feeling pressurised and having psychological issues. I know I posted some weeks back on my Twitter page that they need to stop going on about how many games they play, which I still stand by as there are people who work almost everyday who don't moan or get as much as what they do, but I can see in terms of when they are constantly being heckled by strangers each weekend how they can become a bit guarded towards people, as you do become a target to those who just want to be friends with you, work with you or go out with you because of what you do and not because of who you are as a person. You almost like everyone in the public eye becomes an object not person, and I did take it to heart at first, of when the guy yesterday called me a Wa**er but actually I am not going to see these people again, I don't know them so with he hell to it.
I am a lot better with living in reality now instead of daydreaming all the time, wishing I was somewhere else as I do consider myself lucky.
I have a beautiful son and supporting husband, I have friends and family who support me and encourage me so if it does happen again, I will react by if I catch them on time take a photo of the car registration, but focus on the people and things that make me happy, as when guys do this it isn't about the person they're insulting its about them, it's them releasing their insecurities by insulting someone else, because it makes them feel better, well if that is all they got to the hell with them.
I am going to enjoy my week and concentrate on doing my mother and housewife chores before it is back to work next weekend and enjoy the good things that make me happy around me.
Many thanks for reading,
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06:00 A usual day for me starts at 6:30am, but I woke up at 6am couldn't check the time as thought my phone was fully charged was not, as the adaptor had not be connected probably, damn it. Thinking it was my turn to have a lay in, it appeared not. We have before now when elv has been on the late shift alternated, so I get up one morning to do sons breakfast and my husband then does the next day. However this had been changed with my consult and so the lie in I was looking forward to did not happen.
So today I did my sons breakfast, which now getting my son to sit still has now become the challenge. He had Quaker Oats today with banana, which I then mix in some of his Toddler Milk.
Soon we are planning on getting him on Full Fat milk, which is recommended for toddler to introduce them to cows milk. We whilst I feed him his breakfast and usually he will drink the rest of his milk watch either Tiny Pop or Cbeebies channel. Got to admit I kind of like watching childrens TV as it takes me back, however even though you still have care bars, My Little Pony, Postman Pat and Thomas The Tank Engine, some are very knew and have no idea what these funny looking creatures are supposed to be.
07:30 He didn't want to drink the rest of his milk in his bottle so thought great take him upstairs to his cot so I can get back into bed.
08:00 As my husband knew I was not entirely happy with the sudden change of routine, after he had his shower he went to the shop to get some eggs, so we could have a nice cook breakfast. We don't do this all the time, but now and again.
I then whilst Elv doesn't have to be at work until 11am took advantage and did some sorting out. I did a revamp of my cube units in our bedroom on Monday to make them look better and to change things round. Even though it felt good to have a clear out, and was trying once again be Ruthless, (see last blog) found it hard to let things go. I had loads of notebooks with written notes of when I did my Fitness and Nutrition course that I wanted to keep to use for research, but still after finishing off sorting the bits I kept hold off and did manage to dispose of some still are in a pile of "Where can these go so I don't forget about them but they don't start adding up again leading to further clutter" TO BE CONTINUED.
I was waiting for a delivery today hence why I stayed in only to find out the online catalogue company I ordered it from tried to deliver it yesterday and so hoping that I hadn't wasted my time staying in hoped that my new Toilet roll holder I ordered would turn up. It is now 18:57 and I am still waiting. I had to ring up the delivery service to rearrange delivery for Saturday when The Hubs was in looking after bubby.
Not to worry it gave me a chance to continue to sort things out until my husband had to go and had just enough time to freshen up and put some clothes on. Today it was workout clothes as I would try and fit 10 minutes or some quick workouts through the day, whilst my son was asleep or when he is playing downstairs. Tried this but bubs kept wanting to walk through my legs or chase my feet. He however grabbed my bottoms, then was holding my hands, then holding one of my hands, then suddenly let go and took his first proper steps on his own unaided to his walker. I couldn't believe it, he looked like he wanted to do this for a while but couldn't get the confidence. I then of course wanted to tell the world ran upstairs to call The Hubs, who whenever something amazing happens his phone keeps ringing and goes to voicemail, which I leave a message and send a text, I then call my mum, at which my husband then tries to call me back.
11am: Managed to get some editing of the latest book I have finished writing, and draft a blog (this one) and take snapshots of my day, throughout the day to put on my facebook page related to this blog website tomorrow.
Noon: I watched Loose Women, part of This Morning and one of my guilty pleasures, Extreme Couponing. I just love the way they get things for free. I love watching these whilst I have my lunch, homemade macaroni and cheese, and a few chicken nuggets Ok not an entirely healthy one today but trying to stop eating too many bad snacks by making sure I eat throughout the day so I am full and won't need to snack and it has worked I have only had 1 snack. Result.
19:10 Now bubby has been fed and in bed, trying to finish this blog whilst dinner is in oven. However thanks to The Hubs whilst I finish this blog has taken over and getting food ready now. Pizza evening, again not entirely healthy but stops me from snacking and I am happy. I do like to cook but I do like to treat myself too.
Soon after we at this as we are early bedders, will watch TV in bed soon and I bet my bottom dollar that The Hubs will be a sleep before me as always. However he has agreed to do morning feed tomorrow so I get the lie I deserve that I didn't get this morning.
My days do differ depending on what shift The Hubs is on, but not putting pressure on myself as when I have I can get overwhelmed try to get a least 3-5 things done on my list completed, then I feel I have had a constructive day, not wasted and will save me a job tomorrow.
Many thanks for reading,
Do you look at a space in your home and think, I need to change that, but it continues to build. Pile after pile, as soon as you move one thing it all ends up on the floor?
Well my lovely people it is time to be "Ruthless".
I did this after watching a Youtube video yesterday https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tpmB-0EQheA
I looked at my work desk, I could see after tidying it last week, that it was slowly but surely getting back to messy mode. So I just thought to the hell with it, I would sort it out, and if something was not needed or I hadn't used for a while and was just adding to the clutter then it went in the bin.
Doing this I got to say felt so good. It was like getting rid of unwanted baggage from your life and mind.
Sometimes you have to just say NO MORE CLUTTER AND MORE SPACE.
I even did the same on my PC and got rid of some files I didn't need anymore, as the more files you have on your computer the more it will slow it down. I then after finishing work over the Easter holiday on Bank holiday Monday sorted out my photos. Any that made me feel bad about myself or sad I threw away and the one that made me smile I kept. I have this great photo organiser now, which I bought from Amazon. (See picture below) cost £13.99. There are others which are similar which I am thinking of buying too. With the photos I decided to keep I put in the album I have which I use as a scrapbook for myself to look at and keep, in my happy journal I am creating and the same with any cards I wanted to keep, ones with my son Henry I put in his scrapbook I am creating for him and others I stored in my new photo organiser. These I want to eventually have displayed around each room of my home.
Photos can also cause clutter, same with keeping cards, old bank statements, having loads of clothes and accessories, so being "Ruthless" once a while does pay off, and it feels so therapeutic that I would recommend doing this once a while if you are not strong enough to do all the time.
So time to remove the clutter and be "Ruthless".
Many thanks for reading,
As I am writing this blog I see that the sun shinning through my window.
You can't beat a spring clean, which I did on Monday sorting out our guest room.
Plus keeping up with my weekly chores, cleaning our room (my husband and I's room) and bubby's room. It is amazing how one little fella can have so much washing. I have been mainly sorting out our bedding we have spare, which part is for our bed, and for the guest bed, and our sofa bed downstairs for when we have family staying.
My husband and our do split the chores he sorts out downstairs even though I will clean down there too, mainly on Mondays and I sort out the cupboards in the kitchen and he will help keep the kitchen floor and surfaces clean, and the living and landing floor clean too.
Hopefully once our boiler has been fitted which is up in the loft but the workmen just have to finish the job, which will take an extra few days, we will have extra storage in one of our cupboards in our room, which is where the current water tank is. Once this is removed we will have extra space. I plan to put the spare bedding in there.
I have decided to make the guest room our family room have all family photos around the room. We have a long wooden windowsill which will be great to have photos in frames all in a row along.
I have been also making some nice meals I made for my husband and I a Sunday platter of homemade wedges, garlic breaded mushrooms, mixed vegetables, rice and tortillas. It was scrumptious if I don't so myself. It is on my Instagram page, which was also posted to my twitter and facebook page. Please click above to access these pages
It is so nice to have the mornings light early and will mean some early morning runs, very early runs. Also means the evenings will be lighter for longer, which does seem like the day is longer. May have to have a drink at some point in the garden, I mean a cup of tea.
I hope you all have your mother's day cards and prezzies ready? I have mine and gift so will be giving these to my mum at some point. Starting a new job on Saturday so fingers crossed all goes well.
So until next time, have a great rest of March and I will be posting more blogs so watch this space.
Many thanks for reading,
It is amazing how time fly's as soon as we pass the Christmas and new year period, and now we are approaching spring.
Pancake day has passed and I have to confess even though I had successfully prepared my pancake batter as I have done many times before, they did not go to plan. I used my ceramic non stick frying pans and the pancakes still stuck. I feel in some way that perhaps those fabulous oh so non stick ceramic pans are a bit of a sales ploy. I hate being the mug who falls for it.
However made up for it as I bought pancakes already made as didn't want to waste anymore eggs, and will be having the rest tonight mmm.
Saw 50 Shades of Grey at the cinema on Friday, it was so funny at the end of the film the whole cinema audience went "Is that it?" not sure what to think of it, wasn't what I had expected, and wasn't sure if we were supposed to be laughing at the film or were supposed to be turned on by the sexual activity in the film.
However it was nice to catch up with my friends and actually watch a film. My hubby and I plan each week we gonna watch a film and we don't as we get too tired. I like having low key evenings with my mates, rather than anything too heavy at times, and I hope we will do this again soon.
You can't beat a night out with the girls. I sure you boys will say the same when out with the boys.
I am now signed up to do the Royal Parks Run in October to raise money for Save The Children's Charity to raise money and to achieve another 13 mile run, not done one since doing the Moonwalk 13 mile walk, and last run was the Great North. Next year gonna aim to do the a full marathon.
I will being doing the London 10K in July to help me work towards the bigger run.
I will share some tips on how to train for a 5K, 10K and a 13mile run, as you do need to adapt your training, depending on the length of distance. The great thing about these is that they are a great day out aswell as a great challenge to do. I am so addicted to doing these events now that I couldn't image not doing one.
So here we go, the good thing is I haven't stopped my training, I used to stop up to Christmas and begin again, but this time I have continued with some little breaks in between, it has really made a difference. Even if I can only fit in a short run in some weeks, then at least I know I have done something. Every little counts after all.
Many thanks for reading,
Here we are on the 31st December about to go from one year to another in a space of an evening, and time. It is funny how time just goes and we can't stop it, it just carries on.
The last year has been up and down, however as we approached the new year some positives had arisen. I did some work up in London for the Foodies Festival, I published my first book on Amazon, did the London 10K, we (my family, friends and I) celebrated my sons first birthday and his first official Christmas and new year.
Even though the last couple of months leading up to Christmas were tough, as a few things had changed in my life, I was struggling not having a lot of income coming in, I have become more frugal and appreciative of the many things I have instead of focusing on what I don't have.
I have realised that it is the many passions in my life that keep me focused, which is writing, being a mum, a wife, my love for exercise and sport, and my very first passion in life which I have had since I can remember which is music. I love listen to music and remembering and thinking about things when I listen to music. I was so happy with myself for completing the British London 10K not long after having my son, and now a writer, being able to connect with people through writing to me is special. I always wondered what was different about me compared to others, and always asked myself, why am I here? What is my point of being here? I think it is to help others with their problems on the experiences that I have had through my writing, talking about my exercise and running, and also just generally chatting to people about things.
At the Foodies Festival I worked at in the Old Brewery Tavern near Spitfields Market it was amazing how other staff who were working their just came up to me and began talking to me telling me about their experiences and life, offering me some food and some drink, looking around seeing other people whom have never met smile and talk to each other. It was the same when doing the London 10K this year, where people you never met encouraged you as they ran passed and giving you that drive to continue, making it seem less hard work than what it was; people afterwards asking how it went for me, seeing that they too had just ran the race and saying well done which I did return. That is why I love doing such events it is the very few occasions where total strangers will just come up and talk to you without that feeling of weirdness or weariness. Everybody knows that they are all there to complete the run and no one is competing against anyone really only themselves and I did manage to complete a PB (Personal Best).
The thing is us Londoners are often classed as unsociable as we don't often speak to a stranger on the bus or tube, but what we do is we get into the spirit of things. I think London 2012 showed this, in the fact that when there is an event, a show or a crisis in the country we do pull together and we will show our human spirit.
I moan a lot and I often think about having lots of money and fed up of counting every penny, going into my overdraft, but I think even people who have a lot of money have worries, because they worry often if they loose it, hence why businessmen keep on running businesses and keep coming up with new inventions.
So last year was not bad and I do keep thinking something amazing is going to happen for me, I have no idea what but I just have this inkling feeling, I just hope I am right.
The main things for me is that my family and all my friends are happy, even if we may drift apart for while I know that if I do fall there are always people to help me get back up again.
Many thanks for reading, have a fabulous new year,
Getting organised for Christmas I have decided not to stress over it now but enjoy it. There was a time when my Christmas spark disappeared because I blamed Christmas for what was going on in my life at the time and became to resent Christmas as I saw it as companies just trying to make money and fed up of being skint and making a fuss of one day.
As a kid my Christmas were very traditional, we would spend Christmas day at my nans who lived in Finborough Road in Earls Court, and my relatives who lived in a village in Crondall would come down and stay with my nan and granddad. One of the grandkids would then help granddad dish out the presents, then we would have dinner and then watching Christmas TV all the adults would play cards, whilst the kids played with their new toys.
Even when my granddad died even it had changed slightly but not too much as we would have nan round to ours (my mum and dads flat in Hammersmith and then Richmond when we moved) and would then go to my relatives who lived in a village in Crondall for boxing day.
So we still kept the light going for Christmas, but then things started to really change, Christmases were never the same. My mum and dad had departed company and were divorced, it was tough because then it was who do we spend Christmas with, you don't want to exclude anyone as you don't want to upset mum or upset dad, but me and my brother spent time with dad in the morning who then did the usual went to the pub, me and my brother then went to my nans to spend time with my mum and then my brother then went off to see his then girlfriend. However it was just not the same, and it was the first year I couldn't wait for it to be over, I dreaded it.
This was when I became angry at Christmas it wasn't a joyous time, it was a time of people to become in debt, give presents that would end up gathering dust and would never be used, but they would still put on that fake smile to show they are grateful knowing that they will never use the gift and probably end up on ebay, and that was when my spark of Christmas that I had, had disappeared.
What I was doing was blaming Christmas for the break up in the family and not focusing on that rather than what was really going on, and I did become very depressed, this was when I was also struggling with food, and blamed food for it too, so decided to not eat but if I got so hungry I would go down stairs have little piece of crust of some bread we had and then go back up stairs in my bed and stay there. I could face going into work, or see anyone I just wanted to be left alone.
I decided to start my own tradition at Christmas
With the days getting colder and evenings growing darker early in the evenings I find that all the stresses I have been having throughout the year rise to the surface and my paranoid thoughts and worries start to break through, causing me to feel depressed and stuck in a rut. However with my many Winter Comforts I find that these help and I would not live without these, at this time of year.
I am looking forward to Christmas this year, since the birth of my son, the magic of the festive season has started to show light again, as my Christmas sparkle had disappeared a few years before, but now I have got into the spirit of Christmas once again.
Each year I have my winter comforts, they help me get through this time of year to help brighten up my mood and keep me calm.
Exercise has helped me immensely and I now exercise almost everyday and this included, my one workout which I mix up with aerobics, bit of yoga, core work, strength and toning, and Pilates and I also keep up my running and walking too.
I love a brew I am a tea girl always have been and will be, and the one thing I make sure I have plenty of during this year is my tea bags, now moved onto decaf tea or if I want a caffeinated tea then I opt for Earl Grey my favourite for the winter and my herbal teas.
The other drinks I always have each winter is the Cadbury's 40 calories a cup hot chocolate sachets, and I buy a large box of about 50 or so sachets every winter, from Vikings.
I would not go a winter without making sure I have a few pairs of tights, preferably black and my winter boots. This year it is my pair of red Dr Martins and my Knee high black boots. I always invest in a good pair of boots or ask for a pair for my birthday to make sure I have them ready. I like to buy ones which will last me several winters and can cope in all weathers.
My thermals and running vests as they keep me snuggled when running in the evening and early mornings, along with my fleeces and gloves.
I always have to make sure I have a good winter coat, and I have one which was given to me by my mum and it has lasted about 3 winters so far along with my black puffa jacket.
So put the heating on, grab a cuppa tea and get snuggled indoors.
Many thanks for reading,
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